Third Sunday of Easter
Do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife . . . .
Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband . . . .
. . . . in good times and in bad . . . . for better or for worse . . . . for richer or for poorer . . . . . . . . in sickness and in health . . . . . . . . until death do you part? I do.
What could possibly go wrong?
It seems rather obvious that many men and women have great difficulty living out the promises and commitment they made to each other on the day they were married. Actually, in truth probably all married couples face challenges at times. Marriage, like other vocations, can be really, really difficult.
Being loving/faithful/kind/forgiving/understanding over a lifetime can seem like an impossible task. Many couples find a way to persevere in times of difficulty, while other relationships crumble for a whole variety of reasons.
And yet, in almost every case, each man and woman sincerely meant the words of the vows they made to their soon-to-be-spouse on that holy day. Everyone wants their marriage to be a happy, life-giving one. Everyone wants their marriage to last.
Every couple starts out wanting their commitment to each other to grow stronger every day of their lives. And yet, sadly, it doesn’t always work out that way. It seems rather obvious --- but is worth saying nonetheless --- when it comes to marriage, “words” simply aren’t enough. WORDS are many things: an important start, a sincere hope, a heartfelt pledge, a jumping-off point, a bold and courageous statement of love --- but they aren’t the love itself. That is something altogether different.
“Simon, son of John, do you love me? . . . Simon, son of John, do you love me?
Simon, son of John, do you love me?”
“Yes, Lord, you know that I love you. . . .Yes, Lord, you know that I love you.
Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you.”
What could possibly go wrong?
Jesus once again appears to his disciples after his resurrection, and this time poses a seemingly simple question to Simon Peter. And not just once, but three times. One simple question asked again and again and again.
And evidently Peter answers easily and without hesitation --- the third time choosing to emphasize his love for Jesus even more forcefully --- and maybe even with a hint of disappointment that Jesus doesn’t seem to be accepting his answer.
And what does Jesus tell him?
“Feed my lambs. . . . Tend my sheep. . . Feed my sheep.”
It’s as if he is telling Peter, “My friend, I believe you, but words simply aren’t enough.”
And he’s telling us the exact same thing this day.
It’s easy to convince ourselves that we love God. It’s easy to say. It’s easy to believe. It’s relatively easy to mean sincerely. But there’s one small problem --- it’s not at all easy to live out.
Jesus would soon be ascending to the Father to take his rightful place at God’s right hand. And he would be asking his disciples to continue his work, his mission. And he knew that they would have much to tell people. After all, his incredible “story” was truly unlike any in the history of the world. And the disciples would (hopefully) be eager to tell people all about him. “Hey listen, you are not going to believe this . . . .”
Telling people what had happened --- what the Lord had been about, what he had said and done, how he had laid down his life willingly and then (miraculously) was raised from the dead --- would be crucial in getting the attention of all those who would hear them speak. But what would really spread his message, what would really change the hearts of people, what would really inspire them would be the things they saw the disciples doing --- their kindness, their willingness to forgive, their generosity, even their willingness to be killed for the faith --- virtuous and saintly actions would be the true sign that God’s Holy Spirit was alive and well and at work within them and through them.
The evidence of faith is not simply what we say, but how we live.
And so the challenge today is to make sure that our daily actions are proclaiming the Good News of our Risen Lord Jesus!
Do you love me?
There’s only one way to answer….and we don’t even have to say a word.