24th Sunday in Ordinary Time
“So will my heavenly Father do to you . . .”
Does God give us what we deserve? Think about it. Does God give us what we deserve? It seems like kind of an easy question at first, but the “answer” might be more challenging than we think. I guess it depends on what we think we “deserve”. For those of us who have lived a pretty decent life --- we probably hope that is the case, that good choices in life have sort of “earned” us God’s favor. But for those of us who have messed up time and time again, who have regretted many things we probably hope that God doesn’t give us what we deserve. Just the thought of God’s “justice” can be scary for those of us who have done many things of which we are ashamed.
So, does God give us what we deserve?
It’s a tricky question. The core beliefs of our faith answer that question with an emphatic “no”. We only need look at the cross to convince us of the infinite disparity between our sins and God’s love for us. Jesus paid a price that redeems all of us --- from the virtuous person to the greatest sinner and everyone in between.
God died to save the squeaky-clean person and the person who finds it nearly impossible to love anyone but themselves, the person whose life reflects who God is and the person who seems to have turned his or her back on nearly every God-like quality. That’s the God we believe in --- a God who doesn’t demand that we earn his love (which is impossible), but chooses to love us no matter what. In that sense, not one of us “deserves” to be saved, deserves our heavenly reward. Rather, God offers it to us as the greatest gift possible. It is this sort of outpouring of God’s very life for our sake that we call “grace” --- God gifting us with every good thing --- our God wanting to dwell within every human heart, every human soul, every human person open to that possibility.
Then why did we hear what we heard in two of our readings today?
Our First Reading from Sirach tells us to,
“Forgive your neighbor’s injustice; then when you pray,
your own sins will be forgiven.”
And in our Gospel passage from Matthew, Jesus tells a parable that ends with, “So will my heavenly Father do to you (hand us over to torturers) unless each of you forgives your brother from your heart.”
Wow! Now I’m worried. I’m more like the person being described in the verse the author of Sirach told us at the beginning of the passage we just heard,
“Wrath and anger are hateful things, yet the sinner hugs them tight.” The person who sometimes finds it hard to forgive. The person who sometimes is reluctant to show mercy. The person who is only generous up to a point. The person who sometimes judges people unfairly, or who gives in to ridicule and gossip, or who holds other people to a standard I don’t hold myself to. Does this mean we are in trouble of not receiving God’s blessings?
I think part of the problem is that we often presume that grace is “irresistible”, that is, that we “receive” it whether we like it or not, want it or not, are open to it or not --- as if God sort of “forces” grace upon us. And while God COULD do that (in that we believe there are no absolute limits on God) he doesn’t seem WILLING to do that. God always invites. God always asks. God always encourages. God always gives us a choice --- to be open or not, be cooperative or not, be obedient or not, be receptive to what God is offering or hold those things at bay --- that is, not allow God to do precisely what God wants to do for us and through us. Even when it came to Mary, God seemed to want her “yes”.
And so maybe when God says we will not be forgiven if we don’t forgive, he’s alerting us to the fact that the grace of God’s forgiveness will not reach its fullest expression,
--- unless it is mirrored in the actual way we act and think and see. Put another way --- the way we TRULY receive the grace of God’s forgiveness is by forgiving others. And the way we truly receive the grace of God’s generosity is by being generous with others. And the way we truly receive the grace of God’s mercy is by being merciful. God’s gifts come alive in us and grow in us as we use them to build up His kingdom. Even the grace of receiving his Body and Blood reaches its fulfillment when we sincerely DESIRE to become the Body of Christ in our daily interactions.
I guess you could say the way we truly experience love is by loving God and others.
Maybe wondering whether or not we deserve God’s forgiveness or his mercy or his love is not really the point. The truth is --- GOD deserves those very things from US. So let’s spend a lifetime sharing with God and one another all the different aspects of God’s grace that we have been gifted with. We might be surprised at how much more real those same things become in us.


